Why trying to force a fit never works
If there’s one mistake I’ve made a few times too many in my career path its that I’ve tried too hard to force a fit in my professional life. When I talk about forcing a fit, I mean that I try to make something work that won’t work or make myself be something I’m not.
We all do it, at one time or another, but doing it is a waste of our best effort and energy that could be devoted to better things.
My recent realization is a good example of avoiding that pitfall. I determined that I was trying to force a fit instead of focusing on what’s truly been calling to me. Once I realized that I made the decision to back out, and refocus on what is really driving me, which in this case is the writing and spiritual work I’ve been involved in.
I spent some time today thinking about why I tried to force the fit. The conclusion I came to was that part of me was so scared to let go of where I had been, because it meant embracing where I am and what I’m doing. That part of me was saying if I just hold on to where I was I’ll find my way back, while ignoring that holding on was taking away precious time and energy that could be devoted to writing. Sitting with that today helped me accept I just need to let go of being in control and trust that the journey is taking me where I need to go, and that if I’m meant to coach and teach people again, it will happen in its own good time, but that the best thing I can do is embrace the opportunity and moment before me.
The opportunity is the writing and the work I’m doing that is lighting my fire again, that is bringing me back to joy and passion I haven’t felt in far too long. Embrace what’s available to you, what calls to you and let go of what doesn’t serve you any longer.
